Men, For Example…

Why do these women who have affairs with married men and who obviously have no respect for marriage? insist on answering questions in the marriage section of Y!answers? I mean, there actually are people on here looking for serious answers to problems in their marriages. I don't think we need help from women who wouldn't have a problem breaking up someone's marriage. Carmelia...I get your point, but I would have NO desire at all to hear "the other woman's" opinion of how a married man's mind works. I'd say that 9 out of 10 things the husband told her was a lie anyway. Karen...his really really big problem with his wife is not any of your business. And he probably wouldn't have that big problem if he wasn't screwing YOU!!! snowynin...YES!!! It absolutely does make me angry when women go around bragging that they are screwing around with someone else's husband. And then they wonder why people think badly about them. So they try to justify their behavior by saying that they weren't responsible because they weren't the ones who were married. That's bull!! Everyone is responsible for his or her own actions.

Married man, in love with other woman but decided to end affair and work on his marriage.Men-please be honest? do you sometimes wish you left? Did you try and stay for the kids and it still didn't work? How long do you try? Could you hide your feelings from wife about the other woman? How often do you think of other woman? I am the wife by the way and I really would like some honest answers from anyone in this situation. I don't know which way to turn and yes I do know for sure it is over between them, I have spoken to her, she told me he ended it.

why do some married women(marriage annuled) get involve with happily married men?jealous with happy women? I know a separated woman actively involve in extra marital affair with another married man who is happily married. The woman pursues the man and have herself emotionally enshrined, such that the man and his wife's relationship suffers. Most of the time when she knows that thecouple are doing family activity together or just spending time together,she makes varied interrupting calls to disturb the couple. The other woman is a university professor in psychology and a consultant in a particular NGO working in barangays of some local government units. Is her expertise in psychology allow her not to feel guilt, and see other marriages suffer just because her own disintegrated? Does she want to experiment on human emotions and see how far the happy couple will disintegrate too? Why can't she find a man of her own instead of destroying other people's lives? Does she want to prove that married men are easy target just like her own husband who was also an easy target for others?

Is it Ok to have a secret affair with a married man after marriage?

bisexual married man having affairs with women and men?? This guy that I know here asked his wife permission to go and have an affair with a single woman he knew through work. Well, she said no and he did it anyway, and she got really depressed and could not work for a while or anything. He moved out and lived for a while with the other woman. At the same time, he was also having homosexual affairs with men. He decided he did not like it so much with the other woman, and also, his wife filed for divorce and he was going to have to pay her a lot of money because she was not working. So, he moved back in with his wife, who took him back. They haven't been out in public or socializing much, but apparently, he ditched the other woman but is still doing stuff with guys. I think his wife is still depressed by all this, but they are now still married and live together. Is this a common phenomenon where men are bisexual and they get married but then do not respect their marriage vows? Also, I think he puts his wife down. Actually, no, I'm not, but I was friends with both of them until all this stuff started happening.

Why is it so hard for married men to leave an un-happy marriage? I am having an affair with a married man, I know its wrong and I never said I would do something like this, but I fell in love and so did he. He loves his wife but he is not in-love with her, he is having a hard time leaving her. He told her he thought of her more like a sister, and wanted to end the marrige and she is hanging in there. Realisticly it seems like men try to make the woman leave by being mean and pushing them away.Why dont they have the balls to leave themselves?

In Judaism, why are married men allowed to have affairs with other women? Married women are not allowed to have sex outside of marriage, but married men can (i,e, with other women as long as the women aren't married). In my strict Jewish community married Jewish men proposition me to have sex 24/7 due to this "loophole". BTW they are allowed to also have sex with married women but only if she's not Jewish but he's allowed to have sex with single Jewish women per not the bible but Rabbinical law. For example in the Old Testament if he has sex with a married (Jewish) woman his punishment is to get stoned to death but with a single then no problem even though he is married and can bring an STD to his wife not to mention heartache and impregnante the mistress etc. The definition of adultery in Judaism is if a married man has sex with a married Jewish woman or if a married Jewish woman has sex outside of marriage (to married or single or non-Jewish alike). I've had a sexual relationship with a married orthodox rabbi who justified it with this understanding, and like I said tons of married men approach me as I am single but I have lost respect for the community for this reason and have seen it in others. The married women are blind to it but us single ones and the men know all about how this is practiced/abused and personally it has disgusted me to the religion.

Why do married women get involved in emotional affairs with other married men? Is it right for a woman married for 14 years and having two kids to write a passionate loveletter to a happily married classmate? Why don't women end their marriages before they start an affair? Can one's inlaws influence a wife to disrespect her husband so much that she get in an emotional affair? Do women in distress choose the pros and cons before they get involved in an extramarital affairs? Can doubting the character of a women really drive her to actually live it? Do women think of their kids and family reputation before they when they start an extramarital affair? Is lack of something at home the main force behind this wayward behaviour? Please answer any or all of these mind-numbing questions even though these have mased up my life more than they appear here. Yeah, It's me. I enjoy crazycat's answer.

have you noticed how many young women there are who are having affairs with married men? and they complain when the men in question stay with their wives, these women also complain that they don't see these married men more regularly etc. what is the matter with these girls? do they have no morals? do they not respect the sanctety of marriage? there are enough single guys out there, why chose a married one? they obviously don't know what it's like to be the wife on the receiving end! if a marriage comes to an end through other reasons than adultary, then each partner is free to do who they want, but to break any partnership up through adultary is just plain wrong. yes it happened to me a very long time ago and it's not just because the guy is looking for sex as he doesn't get it at home - trust me! anne o you are right Snow Fox, you have made the other point that i was going to make, it would help everyone concerned if all parties thought about the consequenses before hurting anyone. Rosey W, - a long time ago, my first husband, needless to say i didn't stay with him long, before you ask no i'm not bitter and twisted, in the long run it did me a favour. i know you can't always help who you fall for, but all parties involved should have more thought and respect!

CALLING ALL LADIES WHO HAVE HAD AFFAIRS WITH MARRIED MEN!? So, what was: the best part the worst part, how it began and how it ended ?? ---------------------------- Please no stupid "WHAT YOUR DOING IS WRONG MARRIAGE IS SACRED" comments. Srsly. Don't care.

MARRIED MEN: how can wives affair proof their marriage? How and what can wives do to affair proof their marriage? And what do wives do wrong for the husband to have an affair? For those who have had an affair what was it that you seen in the other women that your wife did or did not do? Did you love this other women? Did you relise that you were not inlove with your wife?

Is this normal for married men having affairs ? and their other woman? I gave a friend of my cousins a ride to the pharmacy to get my cousins prescriptions,stop at a fave clothing store. Turns out she is having an affair with a married man. The man kept calling and accusing her of being with another man,cheating on him..he was home with his wife,stepping out side to call..she turned off the ringer,he started to text he will never call her or speak to her if she doesn't turn it on now..she did..so they argued.. hung up on each other a bunch,she had to explain where she was,who she was with.. all the while this guy has a wife he is controlling the other woman as well. they fight worse then I ever fought while married.. I'm confused. she met him online,left her family behind,moved to this state,he still lives with his wife..she soon threw his wife in his face to try to make him stop interrogating her..oh,and he also argued with her about buying herself a watch so she knows what time break is at work..and about how she spends her money.. Is that what an affair is? is it fun at all ? does it start out fun and turn into that? I'm at a loss as to why people would do it if it's uglier then marriage. have you had one or know someone and did it end up like that ? she is not my friend..she is my cousins friend/room mate...I just met her..gave her a ride.did my cousin a favor to get her meds.. I was sounding off my opinion the entire time. I'm with you.. she has no bossiness doing it and I'm glad she is miserable. she is not young enough to fall for stupidity like that so,not 18 ,shouldn't be naive.. it's crap if you ask me. That's what I said too.. I said to her it would suck to be his wife.. I told her I bet his wife knows about her and has her fingers crossed hoping he will run off with her.

two year affair with a married man n deeply inlove should i still leave him? I've been in a two year affair with a married man. It started simple cause i got out of a very abusive marriage w/ my 3month old daughter. Now we're both deeply in love with each other as is my daughter with him. I'm ready to move on cause i feel horrible. How do i do so without upsetting my child.

Why do married men have affairs? Do they every think they are going to divorce their wife? The guy will never tell me anything about his wife or the nature of their relationship. Do you think he ever will or am I going to wind up dumping him? I will stick with him if his marriage is on the "rocks", if not, he may soon be "history".

Married men having affairs? I'm totally against having one, but I am attracted with one at work. He attracts me so much because of his humor and intelligence, plus his sexyness! Do you think a man like this would stray from his 13 year marriage when he has a little girl, is a guy with morals, yet I sense his attraction to my funniness & intelligence. He hasn't made any type of move towards me. We've gotten to know each other recently at work & have chatted & emailed for about two months. We worked close together a few years ago, so we joked in person more then, but it was only for a couple of months then, too. He often emails me saying he is amazed at my funniness & intelligence, but I'm average looking. He emails me all day, but a lot of times it is on news events, and sometimes the emails are group ones. He said he really wishes I worked next to him again, "Face to face," and we have a bet together that if Hilary Clinton against Obama, I will take him to lunch, something we've never done. Thx!

Question for married men about cheating/affairs? After reading some of the posts on yahoo questions and answers (eg, "how can I cheat on my wife and get away with it?")and having just heard about some unbelievable site called affairmatch.com, I have begun to feel really disconcerted about the whole idea of marriage as a declaration of commitment between two people. I'd really like to know if there are married men out there who have not and would never cheat on their wives, no matter what, even if the opportunity presents itself out of the blue and you think you can get away with it. I mean, if you have a problem with the relationship, why not just end it, versus cheating on someone--the ultimate betrayal of trust? What is the point of marriage if someone doesn't take it seriously? I'd like to believe in my hopes and dreams for the future, of being married someday and spending the rest of my life with someone, but I am really starting to lose faith in people in general. i guess I am ultimately afraid of getting hurt.

Am I being naive? Do married affairs ever work? First of all I know what I am doing is morally wrong, and unfair to my spouse. I do not know if I am merely looking for comformation in what I already know. I expect to be judged... and I understand that on the outside looking in what I am doing is morally wrong. I am married, and have been for four years. Marriage isn't easy by any means. We have seperated a time or two in my marriage but I always return. I have been having an affair with a married man. He is unhappy in his marriage as well. Would it matter if we each left our spouses to be together, given that we are both habitual cheaters? There already is a very thin layer of trust. Would we ever have a chance at a healthy relationship given the circumstances in which we have met? Also, am I not right when I say married men never leave thier wives for the other woman? He tells me that its all timing. Any advice no matter how harsh I apperciate! Thanks!

irish married men and online filipino affairs? I just want to let you know how this can destroy your normal life.My husband got involved in one of these scams.We where having allot of problems at the time in our marriage.He got chatting online to a filipino girl.His whole life became a whirlwind of intrigue and romance, telling him all the things he wanted to hear and he wanted to save her from all the mistreats in her life.Basically it nearly destroyed our marriage totally.Emotionally and physically I was totally pushed aside by someone that lived thousands of miles away.I went on for 12 weeks behind my back and I should have known.I knew we had problems,so I had to fight this whole affair tooth and nail.eventually I found the hot mail address that he was making contact with and I said what i had to say.she never made contact again.basically what I am trying to say is. watch out for these scams.1. deal with your problems in your marriage before you have these online affairs ,it affects you wife just same as a real life affair .2.These people are professional at what they do,they know how to trap you emotionally and possibly take your money and leave you. We got through this ,but it took me two years to over the hurt .Please don't let this happen to you,talk to your wife.

What would u think if u discover ur boyfriend has had affairs with married women in his past? I'm not with anyone now, but that's happened to me in the past with a previous bf, & also someone who liked me was at 1 time dating a married woman. My ex over time explained 2 of his gf's were still married -- with kids -- & living w/the husband, yet they had each told him the husband was okay with it, or they were seperated just not ready for any official divorce because of the financial situation w/kids, house, etc. I know the 1st one he got involved in he had to sneak around & not get caught by the guy (1st he didn't tell me it was her husband, he called him an ex). When he explained the 2nd relationship, I just thought -- wow, where are his morals, what does he really think of marriage and being faithful? Anyway, I'm just curious - girls - if u've come across discovering that & what u thought (or what u would think if u did) - & guys, what's ur take on it, or what would u think if it were the girl w/past affairs w/married men?

Is having an affair with a married man wrong? As a feminist, I do not believe in marriage and see nothing wrong with having an affair with a married men. I find them more sexy than single men.

Families of women in a marriage involved in affairs please answer? I'm looking for answers from all members of the family weather the person involved be your daughter, sister or aunt e.t.c. But I am especially interested if it is your daughter or sister. My question is lets say this family member was involved in an affair with a married man with kids. Then this married man left his wife and kids to be with your relative. He married your relative and again after 4 years of marriage the guy also cheated on your relative which broke her heart. She feels guilty for breaking up his previous marriage if going to leave him. But shes unhappy with him and has now fallen in love with somebody else. Who is to blame in this situation? as her family would you be ashamed if she married another guy since then she broke up a family for no reason. Also remember he cheated on your family member too. So who is to blame? how would you feel if she left her husband now and married someone else

Married to a product of domestic violent household? I am married to a woman who grew up in a violent household. Her father was a drunkard and used to physically abuse his wife in front of his kids while they were growing up. He also had relationships with other women.The mother still stayed in the marriage. My wife and her siblings grew up hating their father and men in general. After marriage the eldest daughter had a affair with another married man and ran off with him who also left his family to be with her.both had kids from their previous marriages who were left with their spouses. I noticed that my wife is a habitual liar and feels no remorse, infact she justifies lying. My wife also had a affair with a married man before our marriage and was probably sleeping with the guy.All the siblings have severe anger problem. none of them have any friends.what shud i do??????????

I have had an affair with a married man for last one year. My marriage was going thru trouble.? The affair happened and i was able to share a lot of emotional stuff with the guy who helped me. Now my marriage has started coming back on track. But I am not able to get over this person who I am still in touch with. He has told me that we should be just friends and be there for each other and nothing more. He is a very caring guy, extremely fun loving, these are the things that have still kept me attracted to him. Don't know how to get over him. I am trying very hard but not very successfully. I feel very depressed all the time and want to talk and communicate with him all the time, something he is not doing too much of. Pls help.

i am in an unhappy marriage and am in affair with a married man. I want good sex only with him. good or not? we are both profeesional workers.

I'm obsessed with married men At this point I think things can't get any worse for me, I'm about as low as it's possible to be in every sense of the word. I seem to be obsessed with married men. I know it's not healthy & I know it often means I've really poor self esteem and I know I do. For me though it's about power, I feel as though I've got power over them. I think this is a reaction to when I was raped as a teenager and since then I've been on a one woman crusade to get revenge on men. Which would've been ok if they were single but I now seem to only focus on married men and they succumb very easily, they're usually quite a bit older than me. My most recent man was a guy who I know is going through marriage difficulties at home so one night at a friends house I climbed into bed with him and slept with him. The worst part is I've slept with a friends husband which totally disgusts me. I know I need to stop this behaviour and to be fair I usually only engage in it when I've had a few drinks. I am going for counselling but she's not making a huge deal about it. Like I said before I find myself and my behaviour disgusting but it's like as though I'm addicted. I've also had an affair with a married man who was the only person I've ever cared about even though I swore I'd never have feelings for them. I apologise for the disjointed message here I suppose what I'm really wondering is what else can I do to help myself? I've begun counselling & I realise that drinking isn't helping so I'm cutting back. I'd just appreciate some advice

Question for men, especially married men? Have you ever had an emotional affair with another woman while with someone else? Did it end up going to the physical level? How did it end? I think I'm in an emotional affair with a married man. While I do have strong feelings for him, there is no way I would ruin his marriage to be with him. But I'm afraid I've already gone too far. I know what I should do, but I want to hear from men who have been in similar situations, what their side of the story is. To "mommy" I'm sorry. I think remembering how his wife would feel if she found out is what's keeping me from accepting his advances. I know it would be devasting to have it happen to me. He would never leave her for me. He would cheat and probably end it down the road. Or even worse, she'd find out and be crushed, and then they'd divorce...etc. I know I have to get away from it all. But I genuinely have feelings for him. Your answer made me realize that it's just not worth it.

Do you think that a secret affair can help a married man to be more happier in his own marriage ? (His affair is with a married woman also )

is it possible for my friend to get the marriage contract of her live in partner who is married? My friend is having an affair with a married man for 5 yrs now. they have two kids who just gave birth lately to 2nd one. The man is already separated from his first wife and they no longer have any communication. My concern is this man is having another affair with his officemate. My friend discovered it when one of the officemate of his live in partner confessed to her. This man is now planning to leave my friend and move away together with this new girl. We just want to know if it is possible for my friend to get a copy of the marriage contract in national statistics office without the knowledge of his live in partner. We are located in the philippines. SHe just want to know if the marriage is already annulled. bec this man is denying that he is having an affair. But currently he keeps on bullying my friend and giving insinuations that she dont trust him. My friend is worried bec if the marriage is annulled there is a possibility he will marry this new girl w/c is young and single.

ALL MARRIED MEN WHO HAVE CHEATED PLEASE ANSWER HONESTLY!? This question is very important to me - please no judgment. I am in an emotional affair with a married man. I am also married. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months now and agreed not to have sex which we have not. We both lack something in our marriages and when we are together we are really happy and enjoy each others company. We usually just talk for hours, however we do kiss. We both have a lot of problems in our marriages but he has a difficult problem to get out of his marriage as he has 2 small kids and I don't. We rarely see each other, probably once a week but we talk a lot on the phone. We are being very honest and upfront with each other about everything. We know what we are doing is wrong but we just want to see where it will lead to. He told me yesterday he is very close to falling in love with me. I was glad to hear that he isn't yet because I feel that if a man just wanted this for sex he would have lied and said he is madly in love with me. He has NEVER forced himself on me and has never asked for sex although there were many opportunities. He said that if that happens one day it would make him feel even more for me and he wouldn't know how to deal with that. SO MY QUESTION IS: Can a man after having sex with you really feel more for you or will they just dump you after they get what they want. I know most of you will say that he will just leave if he gets what he want. Is there any chance he might have been telling the truth about actually feeling more for me?

How long did your affair last with a married man? He has already left the home after 13 years of marriage.?

What's the deal with women who go after married men? That seems really gross and creepy, but a lot of women do it. I was reading a story about a wife who shot and killed a woman who had an affair with her husband, then she killed herself. Apparently the woman intentionally tried to split apart their marriage because the husband was wealthy, and she wanted to be his new wife. I can't defend murder, but why would a woman do such an evil thing in the first place? Why would you find it acceptable to try and split apart someone else's family?

Married men or women can you give me tips on how to rekindle and save my marriage with my estranged husband? I don't want to give up on our on again off again 16yr marriage although my husband strayed. We have 4kids and have been separated 2yrs. In the 2yrs we have worked really well at co parenting our kids. We do what is best for them at all times. Also, we haven't argued in front of them nor did I let on to them that their father had an affair. If I want to get his attention (after 2yrs) in an intimate way should I ease into this with subtle hints or go for it by undressing and inviting him to bed?

I am a married Hindu seeking divorce, can I go for a registered marriage or a court marriage? I am a married Hindu man aged 34. I have filed a divorce case against my wife due to her extra marital affairs with a Muslim married man. The relationship is still going on. Meanwhile, I fell in love with a girl aged 28. We are deeply interested in getting married. Is it possible to go for a registered marriage or a court marriage with the help of an advocate. What all proofs should we produce before the registrar or the court for our age and residence? Can this type of marriage be done outside our state? Please help me.

How do I convince a married man to stay with me instead of going back home to an unhappy marriage? I am 34 & was having an affair with a married man for 5 years, I am not proud of that, but it is both our faults. They have 7 year old twins and was very unhappy in his marriage, but didn't have the heart to tell his wife he wanted a divorce. I decided I had to end things with him, I couldn't take it anymore. That is when he ended up letting her "accidently" find out about me. She threw him out and he came to stay with me because he wasn't in a great financial situation at the time. He was only seeing his kids on Sundays since he couldn't take them overnight at my house, mind you, seeing them on Sundays is more then he saw them when he was home, he seriously was NEVER home! Now, 6 months later, he is feeling very guilty and considering going back home. We were fighting a lot because I wanted too much too fast. He stays with a friend now and is seeing a therapist because he doesn't know what he wants. I don't know what to do without him, I am lost. How do I convince him to stay?

Married Men Only!!! honesty please!? Alright, I am really curious about the following: 1. Tell me whether or not you have had an extramarital affair during your marriage. [This could include anything from a quickie with a random prostitute in an alleyway to an ongoing love affair. ] 2. If you have had an affair, does your wife know about it? 3. If not, what has been a motivating factor of your faithfulness? (Or in other words, what stops you from doing so?) 4. And to all married men, do you believe it is possible to have an affair while still being completely in love with your wife? Please be HONEST. Remember that neither me nor anyone in here knows you. I ask this question because I am doing research on marriages. Also, I went on a few dates with a man who I grew to quite like but recently just found out he was married with 2 kids! I stopped talking to him of course, but I am curious to understand what drives men such as him to be so unfaithful to their wife and family. PLEASE GIVE ME FEEDBACK!!! I would really appreciate it! wow, either there's only 1 married man on yahoo answers or all of you are a bit shy....don't worry, this is anonymous!

what u think about a married woman having an affair with a married man(both marriages r in trouble)?

Why am I attracted to married men? I find myself inevitably drawn to older, married men. I've had several affairs over the course of 5 years and don't intend to stop in the near future. I'm very loyal when in a committed relationship with someone, but don't really have any respect for the institution of marriage. Am I a lost cause? Wow - 15 minutes in with over 20 responses - thank you all. I think that everyone has very valid points (the ones who are making points that is) and I would say that I agree with a number of you; the "conquering" aspect certainly is fun, as well as the complete lack of commitment. I travel extensively and am never in a position to commit for any length of time. However, I do find it interesting to note that over half of the married men I've been with, showed no sign of marriage when I got to know them - that is, I don't necessarily seek out married men - they only tend to be married and I conveniently ignore that fact. Oh, I have to comment on this one: "because your ignorance blinds you..." No, I'd have to disagree - I know exactly what I'm doing and getting into. "i hope that you realise theyre not with you for commitment...theyre with you for your cha-cha...nothing else...just sexual purposes..." I realize and expect this. If they want more (and some do) I high-tail it out of there. "and how would you feel if you were theyre wife?" I will probably never get married for this very reason. "youre just 'the Other Woman', 'The Tramp', 'The Hoe" By choice, yes - and what do you call the men who are cheating on said wives? Are they tramps too? Food for thought.

For all the "Other Woman" out there ..? Some interesting reading I found and it is so TRUE!!! I regretfully learnt the hard way and NEVER again will I put myself in that situation, biggest mistake of my life.. Luckily it didn’t marry him. My heart goes out to you, because your life will be the greatest tragedy of all in this love triangle. Often men having affairs, tell the other woman the self-serving ice queen story about their wife. Almost always there is also another side to the story. Most often these men who have affairs have wonderful wives who are hurting because their husbands are not investing the energy into the marriage that it deserves. The wife's resulting sadness can sometimes cause him to convince himself, his affair is okay. Any woman who is properly loved by her husband will respond in a loving manner. If she does have "ice queen" behavior, the way he has treated her has contributed to her emotional condition. He is not an innocent victim. In the event that this man marries you, it won't be long before you've become the “ice queen� he's telling some other woman about while he cheats on you. As you describe the situation, this man you've been seeing is following the typical behavior of a man with a good wife who is having an affair. He is lying to you as much as to his wife. When a married man creates a relationship with a woman outside his marriage, he is insulting that woman. You are second best. He hasn't left his wife because he loves his wife. If she really is an “ice queen,� then you have to wonder what's wrong with him. He chose to marry her! People marry people at the same level of emotional maturity, and with similar levels of emotional baggage. You can never resolve this so that everyone is happy. I specialize in working with, women like this man's wife, loving, caring women, who are good wives, while their husbands are having affairs. My husband's other woman also thought he was her prince charming, there to rescue her from her unhappiness and to leave me. She kept telling people that he was the one she was going to marry. He never spoke out otherwise, because he thought if he did it would end the affair, yet deep down he knew he was never going to leave me. It had nothing to do with the other woman, her looks, or her personality. It had to do with the reflection of himself he saw in her adoring eyes. It was an escape from his responsibilities at home. Rarely do men leave their wives for their affair partners, but they do lead them on. You're involvement has contributed to unimaginable pain and hurt for his wife and children, and sadly you will be the most hurt of all. Affairs are never okay. You need to minimize the pain by walking away, and working on becoming a woman who would no longer be satisfied with being second best. What's keeping him in his marriage is he loves his wife more than you, and his wife is not nearly the "ice queen" woman he tells you she is. My words are intended to set you free, not to hurt you. I hope you will find the strength to stand for what you deserve in life in the future and avoid relationships with married men. Of course your marriages are unhappy. You've been putting all your energy outside of your marriage and into an affair. If you would put the same energy into your marriages that you put into the affair, you could have the same love in your marriage that you're having in the affair. Your unhappy marriages are not all your spouses’ faults. You each contribute to the unhappiness. When people leave their marriages and marry their affair partner, they soon become disappointed. Within months the same unhappiness in their former marriage pops up in the new marriage. Ta-dah! The common denominator in both marriages is you! It's easy to feel in love when you're having an affair. For your sake, I certainly hope he won’t call you again. And if he does, it speaks volumes of the weaknesses in his character. He is then a man who does not keep promises. He lives his life by feelings, not by commitment. It means he doesn't have the skills to build a happy marriage. Don't kid yourself. There's a reason why his marriage isn't happy and he's got a lot to do with it. If he cannot build a happy life with his wife, he won't be able to build one with you. It's so hard to see these things clearly when you're emotionally involved. If he marries you, he will not be the same man he was when you met him. He will no longer be able to respect himself. He will not have the respect of his children. He'll hardly be able to look himself in the mirror. His issues are his issues, and he'll still have them (even more) if he calls you again. You need to work on finding happiness for yourself. When a man is having an affair and telling his affair partner how much he loves her, and how she's the one and how unhappy his marriage is, he is going home and telling his wife the same thing. If he's been lying to his wife, he's been lying to you too. A person who is dishonest in their marriage does not become honest in their affair. They tell the truth when it suits them, and they lie when it suits them. They aren't living by principles, but by what feels good in the moment. If he marries you, there will be times when it doesn't feel good. No couple in a happy marriage of any length of time will tell you their secret is they married the right person and lived happily ever after. Happily married couples will tell you their success involved hard work, commitment and doing the right things, sometimes when it wasn’t easy. How he treats his wife now, is exactly how he would treat you if he married you. Get the love you want by learning how to solve your issues and fall in love with your husband. Stay away from any man who is married to someone else. Stop sitting across from him at the cafeteria. Get a new job, and if that's not possible, for heaven's sake eat on the other side of the table and look the other way. At least save some dignity for yourself. Work on your own personal growth. Why did you marry a man who doesn't make you happy? And why are you content to be second place to another man's wife? I don't know whether this married man will call you again or not, but I do know that if he does, you're headed for a life of misery. The truth is often hard to face at first, but in the end it always sets you free. Statistically only 3% of married men marry their affair partners and if they do only 3% of these marriages work. Unfortunately, once the affair becomes a marriage, the same traits the man brought with him to his first marriage, he brings with him to the second. He likely blames his wife for where he’s at, and he’ll likely say he doesn’t love her. In reality, he is a significant part of the problem in his marriage. An affair is characterized by excitement. A large part of what makes it exciting is the “forbidden� element and the lack of commitment. Our culture has been feeding us a lie, that there is a “soul-mate� for each person and we’ll be happy when we find this one magical person. A married man will often give his mistress the impression she is the one. He is often also telling his wife this at the same time. Life is a matter of principles. From my experience working with couples, I would question that you ever genuinely had this man’s love. If you did he wouldn’t have made comments like, “I was pushing him and that he needed to go at his own pace.� Even if you fear that your "cheating on this married man!?" has lead you to lose him, this would, in fact, be a blessing - because that is almost certainly what will eventually happen anyway.

A married man has a long term affair (6 years) with another woman - what are reasons for long term affairs? What are the common motivations for a man's long term affair? Is this long term affair most likely for sexual gratification or is the length itself indicative of something more? Could he have built an emotional relationship with this person of some significance? Is the fact that he remains married any indication that he is invested in it, or is the marriage a ticking time bomb? Thanks for your thoughtful reply :)

Any women that have been or are currently involved with married men.? I'm not here to judge, and please don't anyone get preachy. I don't want opinion on marriages and affairs. I am doing a psychology paper on women that get involved with married men. I need to know how it started, how long it lasted, and why/how it ended. I know it's personal, so you may e-mail me here. Thank you so much!! It's actually a discussion paper, but thanks for your (smartass) input. I'm trying to prove that all women that get with married men aren't out to ruin the actual wife's life. Maybe if you've been in college in the last 20 years, you would know that elective psychology classes are for interest spiking. and women, please e-mail me at katie.riley28@yahoo.com

What should I do with my affair and with my marriage? I've been married for 6 yrs. and have two boys by my husband. But I've been in this affair with a married man for a year now. I've already met his wife and yes my husband knows about him too. I will always care for my husband cause of our boys together, but I fell in love with the guy I'm having the affair with and he also says the same thing. Me, his wife and him has already all met together and she told him to make a decision, well he said he loves both. Now we are planning on getting a apartment together, do you think it'll work with us? What should I do? My husband still loves me very much but just wants me happy and to make a right decision too. I'm 29 and the guy I'm having an affair with is 42. My husband is 32. I know age doesn't matter. I really need help with all of this. My boys has met this other guy as well and they like him, and they love their dad. I just want to make the right decision.... HELP.....

Why women marry elder men and have affair with younger one? In majority of the cases married women run away with men less than their age. Is Indian marriage system wrong?

Men who stayed married after they had an affair with someone they loved deeply, please answer honestly? This question is if it was a long term love affair not just a fling. Do you regret staying now? What is your marriage like if your still in it? Did your wife cheat on you? Did you get back the love for your wife that you wanted to feel? Do you think you missed out on a chance of happiness? Did you stay for the sake of your children or out of guilt, feeling obligated etc. Any answers would be great.

i can't help myself from having affairs with married women. How to stop this habit? i'm 33 year old single man. I have multiple affairs with married women. Their hubbies don't know anything. every single week i have sex with 3 married women. whenever i get the chance to meet a single woman i skip it. the single woman asks for commitment and loyalty. I can't do that. I can't stick with 1 woman all the time, i'd be bored. i need variety. Therefore i can never marry anyone or have children. Because if i marry, i still can't stop having affairs and it will ruin marriage. I have been living this lifestyle for 5 years now. i wrecked the marriages of 4 women after their hubbies found it and caused 3 abortions too. After those 4 women were divorced they came to me to ask for marriage and then i dumped them too, because i just can't keep any long-term relationship. How do i commit to one woman only who is single, so that i can marry and have my own family?

Can i marry an man in singapore who is already married in India? is this is legal in singapore.? I have an affair with a man who is already married in india. He is ready to marry me in singapore. Is this marriage is legal in singapore. He won't divorce his wife in India. Shall i continue this relationship or not. I am single and also from India. We both are hindus. Please answer my ques. I am confused.

MEN vs. WOMEN....is this funny?? :) ...? The last one is not a "joke", but still funny(or not) whatever your opinion is.... 1.) A woman could never get her husband to do anything around the house. He would come home from work, sit in front of the TV, eat dinner, and sit some more - would never do those little household repairs that most husbands take care of. This frustrated the woman quite a bit. One day the toilet stopped up. When her husband got home, she said sweetly, "Honey, the toilet is clogged. Would you look at it?" Her husband snarled, "What do I look like? The tidy-bowl man?" and sat down on the sofa. The next day, the garbage disposal wouldn't work. When her husband got home, she said, very nicely, "Honey, the disposal won't work. Would you try to fix it for me?" Once again, he growled, "What do I look like? Mr. Plumber?" The next day, the washing machine was on the blink. When her husband got home, she steeled her courage and said, "Honey, the washer isn't running. Would you check on it?" And again was met with a snarl, "What do I look like? The Maytag repairman? Finally, she had had enough. The next morning, the woman called three repairmen to fix the toilet, the garbage disposal, and the washer. When her husband got home, she said, "Honey, I had the repairmen out today." He frowned, "Well, how much is that going to cost?" . "Well, honey, they all said I could pay them by baking them a cake or having sex with them." "Well, what kind of cakes did you bake them?" he asked. She smiled. "What do I look like? Betty Crocker?" 2.) An angry wife met her husband at the door. There was alcohol on his breath and lipstick on his collar. "I assume," she snarled, "that there is a very good reason for you to come waltzing in here at six o'clock in the morning?" "There is," he replied. "Breakfast." 3.) Smart Man + Smart Woman = Romance Smart Man + Dumb Woman = Pregnancy Dumb Man + Smart Woman = Affair Dumb Man + Dumb Woman = Marriage A man will pay $2.00 for a $1.00 item he needs. A woman will pay $1.00 for a $2.00 item that she does not need. A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. To be happy with a man, you must love him a little and understand him a lot. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed. Women somehow deteriorate overnight. A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting she won't change, but she does. Married men live longer than single men, but married men are more willing to die. Any married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing. A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument What do you think? Star if you like! thanks! :)

Married men? Do you know what yo are missing? I just started my first affair. She is someone I work with and single. She is everything my wife isn't and she is not judgmental. She is in college also and so has no intention of becoming my wife which is fine with me. For all those in a unhappy marriage you should try an affair. They are the best medicine for an unhappy life.

If I got married overseas, but I did not register the marriage here in America am I legally married in America I'm American. I was married in Lebanon to a Lebanese-American man. We did not register the marriage in America because when we arrived here, the U.S. Marshalls arrested my "husband". So, am I or am I not legally married in America? Also, in Lebanon, I never did see a marriage certificate, but my "husband" said that he did register the marriage in Lebanon. Does anyone know how to get the marriage in Lebanon annulled? If anyone knows any good attorneys who deal with international affairs, can you let me know, please?

why do married men get bored say in 10+ year marriages, and then cheat, feel bad, go back, and cheat again? I dont get this. My cousin was seeing a married guy who I swear DID NOT say he was married, she found out by Googling the fool. He obviously went back to his wife, as she found out and blamed my cousin. They are 10+ years married, and my cousin has spoken to him since they split, and he says things like he is "bored". He is clearly a proven liar, but is this part true? He won't divorce her obviously, as too much is at stake, but are men like this as cowardly as, they will stay with their wife even after she has found out the affair and forgiven him, but crawl back to the mistress anyway? They won't leave but they still want their side action? Assume he cannot find a new mistress, and he probably prefers the old one as she now knows his situation and won't judge So if a man in a boring but otherwise happy marriage is, well, bored, will he seek out his ex mistress?

Ladies, under any circumstances would you ever date a married man? Would ever consider an affair with a married man? What if a married man was involved in a sexless marriage, would you have a relationship based strictly on sex, assuming you are a highly movitvated sexual being? Before you cast judgement on my questions, keep these proven statistical stats in mind. 1. 77% of all married men will cheat within the first 10 years of marriage. 2. 43% of all married women will cheat within the first 10 years of marriage. FACTS!

Men & Women..................? Smart Man + Smart Woman = Romance Smart Man + Dumb Woman = Pregnancy Dumb Man + Smart Woman = Affair Dumb Man + Dumb Woman = Marriage Smart Boss + Smart Employee = Profits Smart Boss + Dumb Employee = Production Dumb Boss + Smart Employee = Promotion Dumb Boss + Dumb Employee = Overtime A man will pay $2.00 for a $1.00 item he needs. A woman will pay $1.00 for a $2.00 item that she does not need. A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. To be happy with a man, you must love him a little and understand him a lot. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed. Women somehow deteriorate overnight. A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting she won't change, but she does. Married men live longer than single men, but married men are more willing to die. Any married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing. A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument

i am married with two kids. my marriage is not working at all and my husband stays abroad. he doesnt want to? give me divorce because he has to loose lot of property. i had an affair with a man who is married. he was so good to me but later i came to know that he is having so many women and his wife is also having an affair with some one else. both know about each other and they are okay with it. i couldnt take it and took pills.. we have common friends and they say that he is a man he can do any thing but i cant do any thing because i am still married even my marriage is rocking. pls give your answers .

Why do wifes have affairs THATS WHEN MEN ARE TOO Whats up with that ? It true, The wife goes out because the husband is changing into something she didn't marry into and now she wants to convince herself that it's not her problem. she then has an affair to repair her sole. She can then go back with confidence and then divorce or confront for survival of the marriage. I wonder though. Are these gal's thinking about the fact that, he his probably doing the same thing .

How do I handle possible infidelity in my marriage? Are all men just motivated by sex with no consideration? I am literally disgusted by men. I knew most were capable of lieing and being deceitful in order to get sex from women with low self-esteem, but I never thought my husband was one of “them�. Why would I want to be entangled to someone who lies and uses women? If he uses, lies to and manipulates other women to get what he wants, why wouldn’t he just lie and use me too? In all my life, I never envisioned, imagined or thought I’d be married to a man who peruses craigslist, facebook etc… looking for naked pictures and casual meet-ups for sex while he claims to be happily married and loyal to me. Then, he tells these women that we have nothing in common and that’s why he’s looking to them for companionship. By nothing in common does he mean that because I am a good person, and he is not? Because otherwise, we have a whole lot in common. We both make each other laugh and have a similar sense of humor, we both care about our families, we’re both intelligent, we both try to please others, we are both hard-workers with plans to start our own successful businesses, we are both ambitious, we both have similar goals to own multiple real estate investments, we both enjoy each others company, we both like going out to eat, watching funny movies etc, we both keep ourselves in great physical shape, neither of us does drugs or has alcohol problems, we both try to spend more time with friends but usually wind up choosing each other instead, we both love documentaries on tv, neither of us grew up in a exceptionally healthy home environment, both of us love animals etc… Seroiusly, am I missing something? Is there usually a lot more that people have in common? When I confront him about having nothing in common, he tells me that he just told them that and that we do have many things in common… Who is he lieing to, me or them? How am I supposed to trust this person? Does he even know what the truth is? I still can’t stop myself from crying whenever I think about it. It’s like he had no consideration. I though he was the best of men. What if I am right and he is one of the best of them? He did aplogize for trying to soloicit sex from a myriad of people. He says he never actually met up with them. ?????? What if he is one of the better ones and the unfortunate fact is that most guys are really skeezy and don’t deserve our time, energy or love? They do say infidelity exists in about 50% of marriages…And then domestic abuse exists in another % and men molesting their daughters exists in another % and men who raped others before marriage exists in another % and men who are otherwise horrible but their wives stay with them anyway exist in another %, and men who go out and unsuccessfully attempt to have affairs that no one finds out about exists in another %. So, what’s left? To the person who said women are just as guilty and that I should look to myself first. I have looked ta myself! I would never have an affair. It's wrong and selfish. To Tyawanna. Yes, my post seems focused on the negative because a life changing, bad thing happened (infidelity isn't good right?). Statistic's show men are responsible for more WAY MORE violent crimes than women and more infidelity than women, So I was just wondering what % out there are really good men? I understand why you said my post was focused on the negatives, but I am just trying to understand why this happened? To Tyawanna. Yes, my post seems focused on the negative because a life changing, bad thing happened (infidelity isn't good right?). Statistic's show men are responsible for more WAY MORE violent crimes than women and more infidelity than women, So I was just wondering what % out there are really good men? I understand why you said my post was focused on the negatives, but I am just trying to understand why this happened. Arlette you say you'd never let your man get away with disrespecting you, yet your advice to me is to reward him for seeking sex outside the marriage and probably having an affair. I was happy with him and supportive before all this happened? WHY ARE YOU BLAMING ME FOR THE BAD CHOICE HE MADE?

Question for women who have had an affair with a married man ? I am not judging, and I’m not asking this in a derogatory manner. I just want to try to understand what makes a woman think that it’s OK to sleep with a married man. It’s bad enough that the man is disrespecting his marriage, but men are men, they think with their 2nd brain more often than their first brain….But, I am a woman, and I just don’t understand it. If you are unhappy in your marriage, why not just go your separate ways? Don’t people who are doing this understand that such a multitude of people get hurt in the long run? Not just the husband and wife and the kids, siblings, grandparents, nephews, nieces, in-laws etc etc....

If I got married overseas, but I did not register the marriage here in America am I legally married in America I'm American. I was married in Lebanon to a Lebanese-American man. We did not register the marriage in America because when we arrived here, the U.S. Marshalls arrested my "husband". So, am I or am I not legally married in America? Also, in Lebanon, I never did see a marriage certificate, but my "husband" said that he did register the marriage in Lebanon. Does anyone know how to get the marriage in Lebanon annulled? If anyone knows any good attorneys who deal with international affairs, can you let me know, please?

Can any one tell me why we can not date with a married man/woman? Please do not judge the third party is a "marriage-wrecker" or family value is more important. I like to know what kind of characters does a married man have if they had an affair outside their marriage?

This is a marriage/affair question, I need some opinions.? I've been married for 8 years, the last year has been horrible. My husband and I disconnected bigtime. We both started going out seperate with single friends. I did not meet anybody or cheat. He admitted to me 1 month ago that he met someone that he liked. He said that they had been talking on the phone. He swore that he only saw her the one night he met her and that they never had sex. I was devistated, before this confession he was on the verge of moving out. I convinced him to stay and try to work things out. After lots of great sex and begging and catering to him he decided to stay. At first it was just for the holidays, then we started making plans for the future again. We are definatlely moving forward! Then today he said something that shocked me... I said I think that men and women love differently, they have different feelings when they are in love. He said he absolutely,thats 100% true. Then he gave this example: If a married man has a short affair, then decides to work it out with his wife and cut the other woman off, the other woman usually can't handle it, gets very upset and trys to cause problems because women get more emotionally attached. On the other hand if a married woman has an affair, the other man usually is ok when the affair is ended, and he just moves on. I felt like he was trying to tell me that this was his experience. DO you think I'm imagining this? It was so wierd.... Please send comments!

Are more and more men tolerating their gfs and wives affairs? This is actually a two part question. First, are more and more men tolerating their gfs and wives affairs? Second, what about the seemingly grwing trend of men enjoying the exploits of cheating wives? It's a subject i'm interested in, so i've read alot on it and asked alot of my freinds about their feelings too. some psychology student might have a better reason for it, but if you ask me, if its happening it has to do with changing times. women by nature have a certain amount of sexual freedom becuse they are the choosers, but have been reigned in with labels, threats, and practicality. In a world where women don't have to marry a man to feed herself or be independent of her parents, and she can prevent pregnancy and vd through safe practices, why shouldn't she do what comes naturally i, for one, think some women are naturally a little (not alot) promiscuous (studies show this is true, particularly during ovulation, as women have evolved to want one type of man to pass on genes to their children, and another to support them - whether you beleive that mumbo jumbo), and i think a day is coming where not even marriage will stop women from enjoying what mother nature has given them. studies show that women are more likely to initiate a divorce are more happy afterwords. in fact, it can be downright miserable for a man who has had his wife take care of him like some kind of mommy for years. reports such as newsweeks "the new infidelit" also indicate that women don't have affairs because they'd love their signifigant others and that a fling does't necessarilly mean the end of a relationship if it can be worked through. So what about the fact that more and more men seem to be enjoying the exploits of cheating wives? it just seems like its such a rapidly growing up and coming kink, i wonder if anyone else has noticed it. i remember when short bus came out and me and my freinds talked about how the main atress had a boyfreind who let have all that sex for the movie, and way more of my guy freinds than i ever expected though it was hot. desperate housewives, popular in its first season, also tantilized men with a hot house wife (the redhead) getting it on with some dude. whenever theres a cheating wife at the bar, the guys i know (even the faithfully married ones) are less and less repulsed and more inclined to admit its erotic. now no guy i know would admit he's had these kinds of thoughts about his own wife, but look around the internet, porn, or even these answers. whether they admit it or not, more guys seems to be getting off on that to. So why? is it just a coping mechanism? i meant, women don't have affairs because they don't love per the newsweek article

To military married men? What percentage of married military men cheat on their wives? With always being gone, etc. I have been married to one for 11 years and recently caught him in an affair and after the affair came to light, everyone who knew told me they wouldnt doubt it if he did this our whole marriage cuz of all the time he's spent away from home. I just wonder if the percentage is high. They kind of stereotyped him with the old saying: A marine has a girl at every port...or however that sayng goes. any insight on this? Oh and do you think its possible for a man to spend 18 months in Iraq and NOT ONCE indulge himself? He says he never did, I say yah right. NO MAN CAN GO 18 months without it. And there are women over there, and there is 'down time', i know there is, i know way too many people who have been there and many of them men and boy oh boy do they have tales to tell. So what do ya think? ok ok ok, i know military women cheat, too, but I am a woman married to man, NOT a woman, so me asking about women cheating is really irrelevant, isnt it? a woman never cheated on me, a MAN did, duh!

Married men can make a mistake and have an affair - but how would you explain re-offending? What would make a man who said he was happily married, cheat for over 1 year, beg his wife not to leave him, and then go back to that same woman/mistress once the dust has settled? The wife has not got the strength or desire to leave him, no kids involved. Does this mean he wasn't sorry the first time, just sorry he got caught? And he told the mistress during their affair that he was only with his wife out of a sense of guilt and family ties, and married her year ago to get his visa, but stayed with her anyway. (but does love her apparently) - and that the mistress was really the ideal marriage partner. PS I am not the one having the affair! Interesting, one or two of you think he's using his wife as much as his mistress? Bingo, "caraohara" - I am not the wife nor the mistress, but she is my friend. And she says she will never let him go.

How come married men have affairs? I find it odd that, some married men I know go about their marriage and come off totally happy. A friend of mine, has been married for about 5 years, and he's kinda been "talking" to me, and has said some things. I won't go that route knowing he is married. Just wrong. I really don't want to ask why....i wonder though.

Is it OK under certain circumstances, for a married man to have a sexual affair outside marriage? here is the scenario, my wife grew up in a catholic country, and believes sex is sin, and only to be done to have babies. now that she has had her babies, she has completely lost interest in sex. I on the other hand still like sex very much. do you think under these circumstances it is OK for me to look for sex outside marriage, my wife is very jealous

I have heard married men say that having an affair helped save the marriage, what do you think? Do married women agree that when they had an affair it helped to save their marriage? Let me know. Please give respectful answers. Thank you. Thanks everyone for your thoughtful contributions. "Sasha", it was between you and "Louise P", I liked how you acknowledged that we can turn our weaknesses into strengths, and also addressed the fallibility of human beings, thanks!

Is it best to deny having had an affair to save the married man's marriage if it will end up making me a liar? Many people have found out about the affair, but are threatening to tell the wife and get the man in trouble, so should I deny it in order to save his marriage even though my friends will never believe anything that comes out of my mouth again? why is it when i pose the question without revealing that others know about it, everyone tells me to mind my own business, not to admit to anything or tell the wife, but if the wife is going to find out anyways then to fess up and suddenly get very involved? How did others find out about it? I confided to my closest friend who ended up having a big mouth and wants the wife to know.

Question for married men.. why would you have affairs? i want to a couple of things... why is that married men esp the ones who had love marriage, want to veer out of the marriage.. what is the thought that goes in their mind... is it that their wives will never know or even if they will what would they do... also why do they get bored in the marriage, in the end.. is it all about sex or do they really crave attention cos their wives are not what they expected them to be... ( only serious answers, preferably from people who have been in such a situation)

Married Men!? Why do so many married men have affairs? I know of one friend who has been married five years who wants to have an affair and says he doesn't love his wife anymore but will not get a divorce. It really damages my idea of a monogamous marriage. What drives a married man to look for relationships outside of his marriage? If you are married, have you done this? If you are not, would you if you were married?

Married Men: Would you consider having an affair if you are in a happy marriage?

Families of women in a marriage involved in affairs please answer? I'm looking for answers from all members of the family weather the person involved be your daughter, sister or aunt e.t.c. But I am especially interested if it is your daughter or sister. My question is lets say this family member was involved in an affair with a married man with kids. Then this married man left his wife and kids to be with your relative. He married your relative and again after 4 years of marriage the guy also cheated on your relative which broke her heart. She feels guilty for breaking up his previous marriage if going to leave him. But shes unhappy with him and has now fallen in love with somebody else. Who is to blame in this situation? as her family would you be ashamed if she married another guy since then she broke up a family for no reason. Also remember he cheated on your family member too. So who is to blame? how would you feel if she left her husband now and married someone else

What are the best sites for married men/women looking for an extra marital affair? I've tried myspace, plenty of fish, facebook for meeting other married women. Does anyone know of any other FREE dating sites for men and women that want to date have sex outside of marriage?

Is it justified for a married man to abandon a child from an affair to save his marriage?

If marriage is so great, why is CONSTANT propaganda needed to convince men to marry? Everywhere from TV shows to movies a major theme is the man "winning" some woman's approval and convincing her to marry him. Let's not forget that most women's magazines are about weddings, fashion (to get his attention), and full of "how to marry mr. right" articles. Most religions also constantly peddle the "get married and live happily ever after" message to men. The truth is marriage in any Westernized/Feminazi country is a scam whereby the man gives up ALL his freedoms and most of his money for one woman's security, on HER terms. After the wedding she is in complete control of the relationship and is free to do whatever she wants (gain weight, cheat, cut off sex), the 800-pound gorilla aka the government backs her every decision via the family court. This is why getting married in a Western country is such a bad deal for men. Marriage only works when the government is not involved rewarding females for their bad behavior (and thus encouraging it). Marriage is stil alive and well in most 2nd/3rd world countries simply because the government stays out of people's family affairs, and the cultures also shame women who cheat or otherwise walk out on their marriages. So ladies, if marriage is so great, why is constant propoganda needed to fool men into marrying? BTW, if you are a man reading this, DON'T GET MARRIED! If you absolutely must get married, at least find a good foreign/non-Westernized woman who will stick around for the long term as opposed to leaving you and taking 50% of your assets/children because she was "bored". Western women are crap, they have an entitlement mentality, are 120% materialistic, and they do not value commitment. Actually, I've never been married. I am just amazed at all the propoganda men are fed telling them to get married. I have some good friends who were screwed by Western women in one way or another. I like how women immediately start shaming when confronted with facts "oh you're bitter" "stop being angry" LOL

Question for MEN: that have had emotional affairs while married....? After it was over (The emotional affair)...Did it change your feelings towards your spouse...did you love her more or less...did it change your relationship for the better or worse. After it was ended did you feel your homelife was even more unbearable than before, or did it make you even more grateful of your spouse....did it end your marriage or make it stronger?

Would a married man, who is very loyal to the wife, easily have an affair outside his marriage too? This questions is specifically addressed to those who are married.

Who's to blame when having an affair on your marriage for over 3 years ? the woman is married the man is not reason I ask.. my husband and i where discussing the situation and he says the man is at fault for ruining a family for being selfish. If he really wanted her. Wouldn't he have persisted on her to choose one or the other ??? Is she being a fool to continue this lifestyle?

If you had an affair with a married man and everything ended? over a month ago and you both decided to work on your marriages and cut off all contact, what would such a man do (as I am sure he cheats whenever he gets the chance), if that same woman contacts him offering him sex with no strings attached. Would he decline or will he still take the chance? I've heard that when a married man is finished with one woman and they split, he moves onto the next and forgets the other one??

Men. When you married what role did you expect to play in your marriage.? When you were growning up what was taught to you that a man was to do when he married for his wife. If you married someone and they had you doing all of the housework, childcare and still the primary bread winner what part of you would be affected. If she had long term affairs on top of this, what would it do to you.....other than make you angry. Crazy question I know. However it is important.

I paid a woman to pretend she was having an affair with a married man and now I'm having second thoughts? I paid this friend of mine to pretend she was seeing this guy I have a grudge against who has been married for over ten years. I later found out that it caused a huge fight between him and his wife and now they're splitting up. I feel guilty because I'd never intended to break up their marriage, I just wanted to cause some commotion, but now they're getting a divorce, and I know it's because of the prank I pulled. I'm afraid to tell the truth because what I did is technically illegal and knowing this guy as well as I do, I know he'll press charges. Also, I'm worried about the effect this will have on their children. Please help. What do I do?

Why do married men who are having an affair and...? who say they are unhappily married stay in the marriage?

Is the other woman to blame in an affair? Even if she doesn't know the man is married? Having an affair... is wrong, although in a world where 1 out of 2 marriages ends in divorce and 4 out of 5 admit to cheating on their spouses, it's bound to happen. My query in greater detail is: What if a married man is having an affair, but the other woman has NO idea he's married? Is she to blame? You know the type, business man who travels a lot, finds a younger mistress, THINGS happen, then the innocent, although perhaps naive woman, receives calls from the wife. What happens next?

what should i do to make our marriage survive? im married, w/ kids. my husband caught me having an affair w/ a married man. i know it's wrong. i felt so guilty about it. how can i make it up with him?

The best deal for Break Free From The Affair In A Marriage Stop The Affair? I have searched all over the internet for the absolute best offer. So far the best I found was at http://moveto.ws/1bttg8ezn Anyone know of a better deal? I have searched: Break Free From The Affair In A Marriage Stop The Affair http://moveto.ws/1bttg8ezn marriage counselling marriage counselors marriage help marriage counseling marriage problems marriage relationship relationship breakup love relationship marriage marriage relationships relationships signs of a cheater love relationships marriage advice relationship unhappy marriage love and marriage private detectives private investigators extramarital affairs saving a marriage saving your marriage cheating husbands how to save a marriage save marriage cheating spouses marriage counselor cheating spouse secret affair adultery marriage trouble how to know if he is cheating affair married affairs married cheating spouse software spy on wife affairs detective agencies why do husbands cheat catch a cheater catch a cheating husband cheating partners cheating women extramarital affairs women how to catch a cheating boyfriend how to catch a cheating husband infidelity quiz is my husband cheating on me is my wife cheating is my wife cheating on me my husband is cheating adultery statistics affair affair signs after the affair an affair catch a cheating spouse catch cheating husband catch cheating spouse catch him cheating catching cheating spouses cheating husband signs cheating husbands signs coping with adultery coping with cheating dealing with cheating extra marital affairs extramarital extramarital affair extramarital relationships getting over an affair gps cheating spouse how to catch a cheat how to catch him cheating how to catch your wife cheating how to tell if he is cheating online affair signs of a cheating husband signs of a cheating mate signs of a cheating partner signs of a man cheating signs of affair signs of an affair signs of cheating husband signs of cheating women signs of men cheating signs of wife cheating signs that he is cheating signs that he's cheating statistics on infidelity surviving adultery surviving affair why do men cheat why husbands cheat affair with a married man cheating man cheating partner cheating wifes detectives ending an affair how to catch a cheater how to catch a cheating lover how to catch a cheating partner how to catch a cheating spouse how to deal with a cheating husband how to tell if someone is cheating how to tell if your husband is cheating is my spouse cheating is she cheating love affairs marital affairs marriage affairs private investigator signs a man is cheating signs of adultery signs of cheaters signs of infidelity men signs that your husband is cheating signs that your man is cheating signs your man is cheating why women cheat cheating boyfriends christian marriage counseling coping with infidelity dealing with infidelity dealing with jealousy divorce divorce and adultery emotional affairs extra marital affair free relationship advice getting over infidelity having an affair healing from infidelity healthy marriage how to deal with a cheating spouse how to deal with jealousy how to find out if your spouse is cheating how to know if your wife is cheating how to tell if spouse is cheating husband affair infidelity and divorce is he cheating is your girlfriend cheating marital affair marital problems men cheating online cheating recovering from infidelity relationship counseling signs husband is cheating signs of cheating girlfriend signs of infidelity surviving an affair unfaithfulness what is cheating why do people cheat adultery stories bad relationships catching a cheater cheating husband cheating marriage female infidelity forgiving infidelity healing infidelity how to know if your spouse is cheating how to tell if she is cheating how to tell if wife is cheating how to tell if your partner is cheating how to tell if your spouse is cheating how to tell if your wife is cheating infidelity and marriage infidelity marriage infidelity signs is my girlfriend cheating on me marriage communication relationship help signs of a cheating boyfriend signs of cheating signs your girlfriend is cheating on you unhappy marriages cheating cheating affair cheating boyfriend cheating girlfriends cheating spouse signs how to know if your girlfriend is cheating how to tell if your boyfriend is cheating reasons for infidelity relationship astrology relationship questions signs he is cheating signs of cheating spouse signs she is cheating signs wife is cheating signs your husband is cheating signs your wife

Does anyone have any advice on getting over an affair with a married man? I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a married man for over a year. His marriage was in trouble (or so he said), he told me he loved me, wanted to be with me, blah, blah, blah. He knew I was a lonely, vulnerable single mom. Of course, he decided not to see me anymore, confessed to his wife what happened, and decided to work on his marriage. I have since talked to his wife and she told me that he never loved me and he was just using me for sex. I am completely devasted. I am so embarrased and ashamed. I have found out that his wife is going around town talking bad about me to people we mutually know. I have never been involved with a married man before and will never do it again. The problem is I don't know how to pick up the pieces of my life. I have fallen into a depression and it scares me because I have a little girl to take care of. Does anyone have any helpful advice on how to get over this?

Married men/women who cheat, Do they deserve second chances? When someone has cheated in a relationship/marriage and they have regrets of the affair and tell you they love you, miss you.. yada yada yada.. Are they full of $hit.. or do they really deserve a second chances? Do people who mess up deserve second chances? Even though you love them and would do anything for them.. do you they really deserve second chances or should you just walk way from someone who you really love?

havin an affair w/ married man am married too. found out am preg, what should i do? tell, leave, abort, or??? been having an affair for about 10 months. he is very unhappy, essentially works over 100 hours a week to stay away from home, and stays because he doesn;t want to lose his kids, home, etc. (yeah i know same ole story) but hey same thing here.... i am married dispise my husband, but my son will be devistated if i leave my husband. So I stay. Anyhow, I think I am pregnant, I know absolutely it would be his, and i havent a clue what to do. I dont' want him to leave his family cause i'm pregnant, i know my marriage is over if I tell my husband, and really I don't want another kid. I could never imagine having an abortion or giving a child up for adoption, but I am in such a situation with the potential to ruin numerous lives. i really don't know what to do. someone please help... and btw please no lectures.... i know affairs are wrong, abortion, etc.... just some honest help here people. ok i see most of you think honesty is the best thing but i think to save everyone grief i should just have the abortion end the affair and leave my husband really soon or i could just kill myself.... sounds like that is what most of you think i should do

What usually draws a married man to a single woman? Do you think it is mostly because of boredom in a marriage, because a man needs attention that he isn't getting from his wife, because of sexual chemistry, because the sex is boring, because the marriage isn't working out, because the man is a jerk, because the man needs an ego boost, because the man wants to find his true love and it really never was his wife, because he married too young or are there also other reasons, because a woman is chasing after him? What is the main reason? Is the man automatically a jerk if he does have an affair? Is he too weak to resist sex with another woman? Is it because of the emotional connection?

Is it wrong for me to end a friendship with a friend that is dating a married man? I have a friend that I just found out is dating a married man. She at first lead me to believe that this man was getting a divorce. This is a man that she had an affair with years ago, the affair ended, and now the affair is back on. I recently found out that this man is not in the process of getting a divorce. My friend doesn't see anything wrong with having a relationship with him because she's in love and he is in an unhappy marriage. I am married, so I know how marriage is. Marriage is a job, some days you feel like working at it other days you don't but the commitment is always there. My parents marriage ended due to my father having an affair. The man that she is seeing also has children. My friend is upset becasue she feels that she's not getting the support needed from her friends. I am leaning toward ending my friendship with her. She says that he is going to get a divorce I can't understand why she can't wait for this to happen before she continues the relationship.

Arranged marriage, premarital affair? I am a 28 years old guy from India, going for arranged marriage after 3 months. Jus after a month after our marriage was fixed I accidentaly came to know that she had an affair wid a married man (having two kids) for past 4 years. Earlier she din't tell me about this by herself, but later she admitted it, but still she says it was more of an emotional thing rather than a physical relation, though she admitted that they used to kiss, hug & feel each other at times. I don't know if I should believe in what she is saying and if I would be able to trust her for whole of my life, though she is committing to stay loyal to me for whole of her lifetime. But how can I trust a girl who has not only betrayed me and her family but also spoiled the life of another lady who was wife of that man?